Happy Place: Visualization Techniques

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00:00:00 Mindfulness techniques are really just a set of tools to help you learn more about yourself and manage your emotions more effectively. However, sometimes you find them difficult to prioritize, maybe they take too long, or while you might experience some benefit in the moment, they don't feel that beneficial because the true effectiveness often doesn't come in until you really need them. However, when you really need something, that's the time you're probably the

00:00:27 least likely to just come up with something that's going to help calm you down least likely to just come up with something that's going to help calm you down because usually your body and your brain are stressed out in fight, flight or freeze mode. As my friend Steve Linda used to say, "When emotions run high, intellect runs low, meaning when we're in a heightened state of emotion, when we're stressed and anxious and panicked, our brain actually stops communicating it with itself effectively because it's going into survival mode.

00:00:52 Run and run or stay in fight." And stopping and thinking about things too much, logically, could mean the difference between life and death we feel threatened. difference between life and death we feel threatened. So you're often limited to the resources that you've already practiced in those moments. We don't sit down at a piano for the first time and expect to be a player concerto.

00:01:10 We can't jump into the car for the first time and expect to know how to drive it expertly. And we won't come up with a way to calm ourselves down if we don't already have the tools. But after a while of practice, you can probably start to do these things quite unconsciously to the point where you don't need to practice it anymore and it's just part of everyday life. Hey, I'm Bella Hilton from Studio Fertility. I'm an advanced life coach and NLP

00:01:34 practitioner and hypnotherapist. So today I'm going to give you a technique that's short, quick and easy and can be practiced every day in various ways. And so many of my clients and myself find so useful. In fact, I still semi-use this technique today. I've created it formally today for you as a guided visualization, but as you get better at practicing it, you won't need to do it as a guided visualization when you need it.

00:01:59 In that way it is short, quick and easy to apply and I'll give you an example In that way it is short, quick and easy to apply and I'll give you an example of how to use it shortly. The visualization is called "Happy Place" or "Safe Place" because I know many of you struggle to find that happy place right now, just substitute "safe" for happy. So I created this visualization to help my clients in many situations. Number one, on a daily basis to help them calm down their nervous system

00:02:25 quickly, to find peace and come back to a feeling that's more content, peaceful , happy or even just feel safe. , happy or even just feel safe. Two, to help them in difficult situations, blood tests, scans, difficult conversations. And three, to help their brain to know that they can still find moments of safe ness and happiness was just important. So before we do it here, I just want you to note a couple of things.

00:02:51 Number one, your brain works best in pictures, images and symbols. Much like a dream that you can't explain fully, our brains create a lot of Much like a dream that you can't explain fully, our brains create a lot of meaning and healing a lot faster in images. Two, if you think you're not a good visualizer, that's totally okay. I used to think that I had to see something as clear as my hand in front of me to be a good visualizer, but we're actually all very different. Even if you just kind of get a sense of something, you can't really see it, but

00:03:22 you get a sense of it, you're likely doing it just fine for you. Sometimes when I ask someone, "Okay, you can't visualize, we'll close your eyes Sometimes when I ask someone, "Okay, you can't visualize, we'll close your eyes , walk into a really fancy kitchen, can you describe it to your mission?" And you describe it to me. Even if you can't see it as clear as you and me, describe it to me. I've not had one person who could not describe that kitchen in full. Three, just as the visualization suggests, you will be coming up with imagery

00:03:52 for a place that makes you feel happy or safe, although the guided visualization is a bit more than that. Your happy or safe place can be literally anything and it can change. Your happy or safe place can be literally anything and it can change. For example, blood tests have never been high on my list of enjoyable activities. So when I'm having a blood test, I'm usually actually relaxing my mind by visualizing a nice hot summer day in a park with a light breeze and green grass

00:04:19 , and there's a street vendor selling amazing, delicious ice cream, and I'm sitting on a park bench, and I must have bought one from a Mertz on the stage, and I'm sitting on this park bench eating this ice cream. At other times, I've been sitting on a star looking down on the world, or even in another one I was in Bali, in an infinity pool, looking out over a forest, and though no one is actually there with me, I know

00:04:43 I could call for someone to wait on me hand and foot, because why not it is my visualization? So don't limit yourself. So that brings me into how to use this visualization. Obviously, the guided visualization will help you to calm down your nervous system, but to also start creating new neural pathways in your brain of a happy system, but to also start creating new neural pathways in your brain of a happy or safe place, and this you can call upon when you really need it in difficult situations.

00:05:12 Going through something formal and guided can be a great way to start, and some people prefer the guided method. The visualization itself will help you to breathe more deeply, calm your mind, help you feel differently, and find more hope in your future. So listening to it on a daily basis can be extremely beneficial to your nervous system, however, you can also use this visualization in the future without system, however, you can also use this visualization in the future without needing to put on headphones

00:05:36 and without necessarily needing to visualize the whole thing. For example, when I have a blood test, I walk in, greet the nurse, sit down, and as she's preparing my arm, I turn my head, start thinking about my happy place. It's a well-crafted place that I mentioned before, but I might need to only think about the ice cream that I'm holding, or me sitting on the bench eating it and the feeling it gives me, I don't need or me sitting on the bench eating it and the feeling it gives me, I don't need

00:06:02 to see the whole thing. And then voila, my blood test is over and I'm walking out the door feeling calm and don't really remember the blood test. Similarly, you can use this whilst waiting for scans before going to a Christmas party or having your egg collection to quickly calm yourself down if you're feeling really anxious at any time of the day. You can even do it with your eyes open when you've practised it enough, when you're finding something upsetting, so you can start to settle yourself.

00:06:26 you're finding something upsetting, so you can start to settle yourself. I even used it mid-conversation. So without further ado, let's do this visualization together right now. So right now, I just want you to relax and we're going to do a fun visualization. This visualization will get that trust flowing in your body, melt away any blocks and open you up to the possibility of your life. blocks and open you up to the possibility of your life.

00:07:02 So of course, only do this if you're not driving or operating heavy machinery. And I really want you to get yourself comfortable, either in a chair or lying down. And as you start to relax and just listen to the sound of my voice, I just want you to gently close your eyes. As you let the outside world drift away now and really enjoy this time for As you let the outside world drift away now and really enjoy this time for yourself.

00:07:37 And as you lie there or sit there now, I just want you to concentrate and focus in on your breathing just to get your mind and your body really centred and focused. And just take a few deep breaths in for four counts and breathe out for four. So breathe in and breathe out. So breathe in and breathe out. And breathe in and breathe out. And once more, breathe in and breathe out.

00:08:24 And now as you feel your mind and your body just drift away, just let your And now as you feel your mind and your body just drift away, just let your breath settle into its natural rhythm. As you now focus your mind's attention to the image that is now forming in your mind of what we will call your happy place. And this place can be anywhere in the world or even not of this world as you And this place can be anywhere in the world or even not of this world as you are only limited by your imagination of what you can create now.

00:09:16 For some, this will be a beautiful garden full of flowers and life. For others, this will be a secluded beach with lapping waves. For others, this will be a secluded beach with lapping waves. For some, this might be sitting on a star or a cloud and watching the world spin below you. Wherever you are is perfect. For some too, there will be other people in its happy place. Maybe they are For some too, there will be other people in its happy place. Maybe they are

00:10:06 friends or family or loved ones or people waiting on you hand and foot. Maybe you are all by yourself just enjoying the peace and quiet and the still ness of your mind and thoughts. As you listen to the sound of my voice and when the completeness of that image As you listen to the sound of my voice and when the completeness of that image reveals itself to you now, I just want you to step into that picture fully. Like you are looking through your own eyes and can see every aspect of your surroundings.

00:10:56 your own eyes and can see every aspect of your surroundings. Like you are there. And however you see this image is perfect. Whether you can see it with clear detail or you just get a sense of it. Just be in your happy place now. Feeling centered and calm and serene. Feeling centered and calm and serene. You cannot bring your doubts or fears to this place as they are turned away at

00:11:38 the door. The only emotions and experiences that exist in this place, your place, are the ones you want to have. It is your place and your time. And right now in this place and at this moment you don't have to pretend to be anyone other than you. You are whole, complete and free from judgment, from others and yourself. You are completely safe.

00:12:28 You are completely safe. And as you sit there or lie there in your happy place now, you realize that your life, your world, your future experiences are open to infinite possibility From this place and this point in time where you experience ultimate love and contentment. The future is limitless, exciting and you can't wait to see where it will take you. And in this moment now you see a round circle in front of you that grows up

00:13:24 And in this moment now you see a round circle in front of you that grows up into an egg shape like a glowing orb that you can step into and transport yourself to any one of these future possibilities that you dare to dream about. This glowing golden orb is your own possibility pod for exploring the future and creating your dreams. and creating your dreams. And as you step into the glow of the golden orb, you feel its energy flow all

00:14:10 around you, lifting your heart and keeping you safe. As you breathe in, you are instantly transported to a time in the future that hasn't happened yet. Which you can now create in your mind a time when you feel totally empowered and feel love all around you. And in fact you feel so joyous and content. It is hard to believe that this is your life because you are so grateful that you allowed yourself to dream.

00:14:57 you allowed yourself to dream. Because this is your best life possible now and you couldn't even have imagined how good it could be until you were right here in this moment. So what do you see and I wonder where you are and what is happening and who is with you. What sounds are important and what are you saying or doing? What sounds are important and what are you saying or doing? Maybe you are saying something to yourself.

00:15:41 And what are those emotions, how are you feeling, give them a name. And look even more broadly, what are you doing for your career in this moment? And what is your relationship like with your partner and where are you living, And what is your relationship like with your partner and where are you living, paint the picture. And as you really breathe in all the feelings, you feel like your heart might explode with happiness that you have created all of this, this miracle, your life.

00:16:27 You created this reality because you realized that any fears you used to have You created this reality because you realized that any fears you used to have were just because you cared so much. That you didn't need the fear, you just needed love. And as you step back into your possibility pod and come back to your happy place now, place now, you realize that wherever your pod takes you in the future,

00:17:07 when you start with feelings of centeredness and love, all the possibilities will be exciting and better than you ever could have imagined. And as you bring all those amazing feelings back with you to your happy place And as you bring all those amazing feelings back with you to your happy place and then continue to bring all those amazing feelings back with you to the here and now and put them in a place in your heart so you can access them whenever you wish

00:17:54 in the future. Whenever it makes sense for you, I just want you to come back into your body, Whenever it makes sense for you, I just want you to come back into your body, back into the room, feeling great. [Music]

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[00:00:00] Mindfulness techniques are really just a set of tools to help you learn more about yourself and manage your emotions more effectively. However, sometimes you find them difficult to prioritize, maybe they take too long, or while you might experience some benefit in the moment, they don't feel that beneficial because the true effectiveness often doesn't come in until you really need them. However, when you really need something, that's the time you're probably the [00:00:27] least likely to just come up with something that's going to help calm you down least likely to just come up with something that's going to help calm you down because usually your body and your brain are stressed out in fight, flight or freeze mode. As my friend Steve Linda used to say, "When emotions run high, intellect runs low, meaning when we're in a heightened state of emotion, when we're stressed and anxious and panicked, our brain actually stops communicating it with itself effectively because it's going into survival mode. [00:00:52] Run and run or stay in fight." And stopping and thinking about things too much, logically, could mean the difference between life and death we feel threatened. difference between life and death we feel threatened. So you're often limited to the resources that you've already practiced in those moments. We don't sit down at a piano for the first time and expect to be a player concerto. [00:01:10] We can't jump into the car for the first time and expect to know how to drive it expertly. And we won't come up with a way to calm ourselves down if we don't already have the tools. But after a while of practice, you can probably start to do these things quite unconsciously to the point where you don't need to practice it anymore and it's just part of everyday life. Hey, I'm Bella Hilton from Studio Fertility. I'm an advanced life coach and NLP [00:01:34] practitioner and hypnotherapist. So today I'm going to give you a technique that's short, quick and easy and can be practiced every day in various ways. And so many of my clients and myself find so useful. In fact, I still semi-use this technique today. I've created it formally today for you as a guided visualization, but as you get better at practicing it, you won't need to do it as a guided visualization when you need it. [00:01:59] In that way it is short, quick and easy to apply and I'll give you an example In that way it is short, quick and easy to apply and I'll give you an example of how to use it shortly. The visualization is called "Happy Place" or "Safe Place" because I know many of you struggle to find that happy place right now, just substitute "safe" for happy. So I created this visualization to help my clients in many situations. Number one, on a daily basis to help them calm down their nervous system [00:02:25] quickly, to find peace and come back to a feeling that's more content, peaceful , happy or even just feel safe. , happy or even just feel safe. Two, to help them in difficult situations, blood tests, scans, difficult conversations. And three, to help their brain to know that they can still find moments of safe ness and happiness was just important. So before we do it here, I just want you to note a couple of things. [00:02:51] Number one, your brain works best in pictures, images and symbols. Much like a dream that you can't explain fully, our brains create a lot of Much like a dream that you can't explain fully, our brains create a lot of meaning and healing a lot faster in images. Two, if you think you're not a good visualizer, that's totally okay. I used to think that I had to see something as clear as my hand in front of me to be a good visualizer, but we're actually all very different. Even if you just kind of get a sense of something, you can't really see it, but [00:03:22] you get a sense of it, you're likely doing it just fine for you. Sometimes when I ask someone, "Okay, you can't visualize, we'll close your eyes Sometimes when I ask someone, "Okay, you can't visualize, we'll close your eyes , walk into a really fancy kitchen, can you describe it to your mission?" And you describe it to me. Even if you can't see it as clear as you and me, describe it to me. I've not had one person who could not describe that kitchen in full. Three, just as the visualization suggests, you will be coming up with imagery [00:03:52] for a place that makes you feel happy or safe, although the guided visualization is a bit more than that. Your happy or safe place can be literally anything and it can change. Your happy or safe place can be literally anything and it can change. For example, blood tests have never been high on my list of enjoyable activities. So when I'm having a blood test, I'm usually actually relaxing my mind by visualizing a nice hot summer day in a park with a light breeze and green grass [00:04:19] , and there's a street vendor selling amazing, delicious ice cream, and I'm sitting on a park bench, and I must have bought one from a Mertz on the stage, and I'm sitting on this park bench eating this ice cream. At other times, I've been sitting on a star looking down on the world, or even in another one I was in Bali, in an infinity pool, looking out over a forest, and though no one is actually there with me, I know [00:04:43] I could call for someone to wait on me hand and foot, because why not it is my visualization? So don't limit yourself. So that brings me into how to use this visualization. Obviously, the guided visualization will help you to calm down your nervous system, but to also start creating new neural pathways in your brain of a happy system, but to also start creating new neural pathways in your brain of a happy or safe place, and this you can call upon when you really need it in difficult situations. [00:05:12] Going through something formal and guided can be a great way to start, and some people prefer the guided method. The visualization itself will help you to breathe more deeply, calm your mind, help you feel differently, and find more hope in your future. So listening to it on a daily basis can be extremely beneficial to your nervous system, however, you can also use this visualization in the future without system, however, you can also use this visualization in the future without needing to put on headphones [00:05:36] and without necessarily needing to visualize the whole thing. For example, when I have a blood test, I walk in, greet the nurse, sit down, and as she's preparing my arm, I turn my head, start thinking about my happy place. It's a well-crafted place that I mentioned before, but I might need to only think about the ice cream that I'm holding, or me sitting on the bench eating it and the feeling it gives me, I don't need or me sitting on the bench eating it and the feeling it gives me, I don't need [00:06:02] to see the whole thing. And then voila, my blood test is over and I'm walking out the door feeling calm and don't really remember the blood test. Similarly, you can use this whilst waiting for scans before going to a Christmas party or having your egg collection to quickly calm yourself down if you're feeling really anxious at any time of the day. You can even do it with your eyes open when you've practised it enough, when you're finding something upsetting, so you can start to settle yourself. [00:06:26] you're finding something upsetting, so you can start to settle yourself. I even used it mid-conversation. So without further ado, let's do this visualization together right now. So right now, I just want you to relax and we're going to do a fun visualization. This visualization will get that trust flowing in your body, melt away any blocks and open you up to the possibility of your life. blocks and open you up to the possibility of your life. [00:07:02] So of course, only do this if you're not driving or operating heavy machinery. And I really want you to get yourself comfortable, either in a chair or lying down. And as you start to relax and just listen to the sound of my voice, I just want you to gently close your eyes. As you let the outside world drift away now and really enjoy this time for As you let the outside world drift away now and really enjoy this time for yourself. [00:07:37] And as you lie there or sit there now, I just want you to concentrate and focus in on your breathing just to get your mind and your body really centred and focused. And just take a few deep breaths in for four counts and breathe out for four. So breathe in and breathe out. So breathe in and breathe out. And breathe in and breathe out. And once more, breathe in and breathe out. [00:08:24] And now as you feel your mind and your body just drift away, just let your And now as you feel your mind and your body just drift away, just let your breath settle into its natural rhythm. As you now focus your mind's attention to the image that is now forming in your mind of what we will call your happy place. And this place can be anywhere in the world or even not of this world as you And this place can be anywhere in the world or even not of this world as you are only limited by your imagination of what you can create now. [00:09:16] For some, this will be a beautiful garden full of flowers and life. For others, this will be a secluded beach with lapping waves. For others, this will be a secluded beach with lapping waves. For some, this might be sitting on a star or a cloud and watching the world spin below you. Wherever you are is perfect. For some too, there will be other people in its happy place. Maybe they are For some too, there will be other people in its happy place. Maybe they are [00:10:06] friends or family or loved ones or people waiting on you hand and foot. Maybe you are all by yourself just enjoying the peace and quiet and the still ness of your mind and thoughts. As you listen to the sound of my voice and when the completeness of that image As you listen to the sound of my voice and when the completeness of that image reveals itself to you now, I just want you to step into that picture fully. Like you are looking through your own eyes and can see every aspect of your surroundings. [00:10:56] your own eyes and can see every aspect of your surroundings. Like you are there. And however you see this image is perfect. Whether you can see it with clear detail or you just get a sense of it. Just be in your happy place now. Feeling centered and calm and serene. Feeling centered and calm and serene. You cannot bring your doubts or fears to this place as they are turned away at [00:11:38] the door. The only emotions and experiences that exist in this place, your place, are the ones you want to have. It is your place and your time. And right now in this place and at this moment you don't have to pretend to be anyone other than you. You are whole, complete and free from judgment, from others and yourself. You are completely safe. [00:12:28] You are completely safe. And as you sit there or lie there in your happy place now, you realize that your life, your world, your future experiences are open to infinite possibility From this place and this point in time where you experience ultimate love and contentment. The future is limitless, exciting and you can't wait to see where it will take you. And in this moment now you see a round circle in front of you that grows up [00:13:24] And in this moment now you see a round circle in front of you that grows up into an egg shape like a glowing orb that you can step into and transport yourself to any one of these future possibilities that you dare to dream about. This glowing golden orb is your own possibility pod for exploring the future and creating your dreams. and creating your dreams. And as you step into the glow of the golden orb, you feel its energy flow all [00:14:10] around you, lifting your heart and keeping you safe. As you breathe in, you are instantly transported to a time in the future that hasn't happened yet. Which you can now create in your mind a time when you feel totally empowered and feel love all around you. And in fact you feel so joyous and content. It is hard to believe that this is your life because you are so grateful that you allowed yourself to dream. [00:14:57] you allowed yourself to dream. Because this is your best life possible now and you couldn't even have imagined how good it could be until you were right here in this moment. So what do you see and I wonder where you are and what is happening and who is with you. What sounds are important and what are you saying or doing? What sounds are important and what are you saying or doing? Maybe you are saying something to yourself. [00:15:41] And what are those emotions, how are you feeling, give them a name. And look even more broadly, what are you doing for your career in this moment? And what is your relationship like with your partner and where are you living, And what is your relationship like with your partner and where are you living, paint the picture. And as you really breathe in all the feelings, you feel like your heart might explode with happiness that you have created all of this, this miracle, your life. [00:16:27] You created this reality because you realized that any fears you used to have You created this reality because you realized that any fears you used to have were just because you cared so much. That you didn't need the fear, you just needed love. And as you step back into your possibility pod and come back to your happy place now, place now, you realize that wherever your pod takes you in the future, [00:17:07] when you start with feelings of centeredness and love, all the possibilities will be exciting and better than you ever could have imagined. And as you bring all those amazing feelings back with you to your happy place And as you bring all those amazing feelings back with you to your happy place and then continue to bring all those amazing feelings back with you to the here and now and put them in a place in your heart so you can access them whenever you wish [00:17:54] in the future. Whenever it makes sense for you, I just want you to come back into your body, Whenever it makes sense for you, I just want you to come back into your body, back into the room, feeling great. [Music]