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takes 3 minutes to complete00:00:01 In this video, I would love to share with you a powerful, simple technique to foster greater intimacy, connection and closeness between you and your partner. So studies have found this concept called physiological synchronicity or attunement, where between people in close relationships, there is a physiological mirroring that happens. So this means that their breathing pattern syncs up, even their heart rates will mirror each other. So this means that their breathing pattern syncs up, even their heart rates will mirror each other. And so this is about using this understanding of attunement to intentionally foster a deeper sense of connection with your partner.
00:00:47 So how you do this, there are two ways that I will share with you today where you can bring this into your relationship, specifically within the bedroom. So the first way is a wonderful way to help transition out of being out in the world and kind of going about is a wonderful way to help transition out of being out in the world and kind of going about your day to day and actually shifting gears to drop in with your partner and to connect. So this can be done by sitting on the bed facing each other or sitting on a chair each and sitting opposite your partner. You simply begin to notice your breath, tuning in with the steady flow of breath moving in and out of your body.
00:01:28 tuning in with the steady flow of breath moving in and out of your body. And then once you have felt into your own breathing rhythm, you can tune into that of your partner and they tune into yours. And you intentionally sync up your breaths, where you're breathing in together for the same length of time, and you're breathing out together for the same length of time. One way that you can support yourselves to do this, to get into this synced up rhythm, One way that you can support yourselves to do this, to get into this synced up rhythm, is to bring your hands up together at the same speed. So you're mirroring each other,
00:02:15 bringing your hands up on the inhale, and then turning your hands and bringing them down on the exhale. So that can be supportive in the beginning, just to help you sync up. And then you can be just gazing into your partner's eyes if that feels comfortable, And then you can be just gazing into your partner's eyes if that feels comfortable, connecting your breath, feeling each other, coming into this more intimate connection, and really feeling each other in this place without words. And then a way of also bringing in another technique to deepen this sense of connection is
00:02:55 to use what's called the heartbeat connection, where you take a hand and you place it over to use what's called the heartbeat connection, where you take a hand and you place it over the heart of your partner, and they take their hand and place it over your heart. And that way you're not only sharing this breath of life together, but you're also feeling this place where the heart is beating underneath the palms of your hands. And this way you're really feeling each other, the aliveness within both of you, coming into this shared space of union between you both. And then from there, you can bring this similar shared space of union between you both. And then from there, you can bring this similar
00:03:34 technique of syncing your breathing during lovemaking itself. So very often during lovemaking, we will breathe very quickly and very shallow, like in our chest, or even sometimes restrict our breathing altogether. And so by introducing this technique, we also become more mindful of our breathing pattern during lovemaking. And we can invite our partner to breathe with us. breathing pattern during lovemaking. And we can invite our partner to breathe with us. And this can help to really slow things down. And the invitation is to breathe in a longer and slower breath together for several breaths. And then you can also increase the speed of your breath a little bit. So you can play with this, you can bring the breath up to a faster pace,
00:04:26 right down and bring it into a deeper breath down into the belly. And just explore and experiment right down and bring it into a deeper breath down into the belly. And just explore and experiment with this and you'll see how deeply connecting this is to feel that physiological synchronicity with your partner during this incredibly intimate moment of lovemaking together. So I hope that you will enjoy this practice. I hope you'll try it out. And if you have any questions, you can also contact me and send me a message. Thank you so much for watching. questions, you can also contact me and send me a message. Thank you so much for watching.
