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takes 3 minutes to complete00:00:01 When you feel that you no longer have control over your situation, who do you turn to? Google. Today we are going to talk a little about whether Google has become your new best friend or enemy in this process. In the modern society we live in, we are encouraged and raised to be solution-oriented and to find answers quickly and efficiently to our problems. But the culture of finding solutions can be particularly challenging for those who experience infertility. But the culture of finding solutions can be particularly challenging for those who experience infertility. Despite their best efforts, they may feel that traditional solutions are not always sufficient to handle the complex emotional and stressful situation they are facing. This can lead to a tendency to seek answers and comfort on the Internet.
00:00:51 When it comes to Google, it often involves finding a quick solution or simply feeling connected to others in similar situations. But the constant availability of information online, online, can seem appealing to many couples that I talk to. And they may find that when they seek comfort and solace, it is also a matter of gaining a bit of that power back by being able to do something. However, excessive use of Google and other online resources can lead to an unfortunate cycle of stress. Anxiety can even lead to an obsession,
00:01:26 Anxiety can even lead to an obsession, where you find yourself caught in a bit of a Google trap. It can lead to a lot of stress, and it can lead to further feelings of helplessness and frustration, as this constant search for answers and support online does not always provide the desired relief that you may have hoped for. In some cases, it may not provide the understanding of your situation. Therefore, it is important to acknowledge that while online searches can be useful, they can also have their limitations and even become harmful to you in your treatment process.
00:01:59 they can also have their limitations and even become harmful to you in your treatment process. Therefore, it is crucial that you become much more aware of your online habits, and that you seek help as soon as you feel that it is difficult to manage on your own. That's exactly what we need to talk about today. Because maybe you know all too well that Google can become a bit of a habit at the best of times when you're looking for answers to the many questions of everyday life. when you're looking for answers to the many questions of everyday life. But when you are struggling to get pregnant,
00:02:36 it can become something that you can't avoid. It can become something that gets a bit out of control. You know that it isn't helpful to, for example, Google all day long, but it feels like you can't really stop once you've started. It might interrupt your workday. You quickly check in just before lunch break, or between emails. And before you know it, you have spent an hour researching page after page,
00:03:05 trying to find answers to some of the things that you're struggling with. Things that challenge you in connection with your infertility treatment. Maybe you also experience this in the evening before bedtime, so you quickly open your Google search engine again, and in the next moment, it's midnight, and then you blame yourself for getting sucked into this spiral of information. That hasn't been helpful, while now it ends up with you not getting enough sleep.
00:03:29 while now it ends up with you not getting enough sleep. It also makes things a bit worse. Because what you were actually searching for was how much sleep one should get in the morning, and how much sleep one should get to help with fertility. It can be a vicious circle. I know that better than anyone. A need to search for solutions and new paths that you can take.
00:03:57 Can I compare it a bit to a temptation for sugar or sweets? Can I compare it a bit to a temptation for sugar or sweets? I can confidently say that when there is chocolate in the house, I feel best when I eat it. For it is only at the moment when there is none left that I can turn off the craving for chocolate. If you have punished yourself for this and feel a bit out of control, find comfort in knowing that you are in no way alone.
00:04:27 There is nothing wrong with you at all. In fact, there is quite a good reason that we feel compelled to examine all aspects of our fertility when forced to do so. First of all, we really want to feel that there is hope for us. That we might also be able to feel that there is hope for us. That we might also resemble others who are going through the same as us. And that is precisely why we dive into statistics, so we can predict our chances,
00:04:54 and we search for good news and good stories that can remind us of what it means to try. This journey can be extremely isolating, so we may also seek connection. We want to know that we are not alone, as we engage in various forums and communities to feel less alone with our thoughts and feelings, and not least, our experiences.
00:05:17 And last but not least, we also want to feel empowered, because precisely infertility and pregnancy loss make us really feel that we can be completely powerless and out of control. make us really feel that we can be completely powerless and out of control. So, if we can prepare ourselves with the right information, it can help us feel like we are actually doing something, instead of just wasting time and waiting for the next cycle.
00:05:47 I really want to make it clear, that there is nothing wrong with searching for answers online or trying to find solutions, that can help you gain more hope. But for many, including myself, But for many, including myself, it can become somewhat of an obsession that takes time away from everything that makes you feel good.
00:06:06 So, how? Do you know if you have crossed the line? And, if your Google habits have become somewhat of an obsession? Yes. Here are some good markers that you can use to gain a better understanding of your habits and how things are really going with that Google search.
00:06:27 One thing I would like to say is that One thing I would like to say is that if you search for the same question, you know, again, for example, how do I increase my fertility or get pregnant faster? It quickly suggests that it is becoming a habit. When you close your Google search engine, do you feel frustrated or perhaps
00:06:47 irritable, guilty, or even worse than when you started? Maybe it's because you know that it has become an unhealthy time waster for you. Perhaps you also find that you cannot focus on anything else Perhaps you also find that you cannot focus on anything else during your weekdays, and you feel the constant urge to just check one more time.
00:07:09 Going to work can almost feel like a necessary evil because it disrupts your Google time. You spend hours every day stuck in your research, searching for answers or results that can help you. Perhaps you also hide your search history because you don't want others to know because you don't want others to know how much time you spend.
00:07:33 My best advice for you today is if it is not helpful, then it is harmful. If you are not feeling better, then it is not good. But what do you do about it? Well, you see, any habit can be broken.
00:07:54 So here are some ways to set some boundaries when it comes to your Google searches. when it comes to your Google searches. 1. Try to put your phone away. So that it is not in your line of sight. For example, next to me on the desk, put it in another room. If I know that my phone is in a completely different place,
00:08:13 I can more easily resist the temptation to check emails and social media. It's a bit of a reflex to reach for it when it's there. But if it's in another room, I can leave it be. When you feel tempted to Google, ask yourself, ask yourself,
00:08:30 how will I feel afterwards? Will I feel even more confused? Guilty about the wasted time I have spent? More downcast and hopeless? If the answer is yes, then remind yourself that Google will only worsen that feeling. And most importantly,
00:08:51 try to say it out loud. I know it sounds strange, but there's nothing like saying it out loud, that is, what you Google, to help you see if it is helpful or not. to help you see if it is helpful or not. If it's too embarrassing to say out loud, then you have your answer.
00:09:07 If you need to search for something specific, for example, a precise question, try setting a timer on your phone for, let's say, five minutes. This way, you ensure that what you are searching for
00:09:18 or investigating is targeted, and you are not distracted by suddenly going down different paths. Another good thing could be to have someone Google things for you. to have someone Google things for you. It could be a friend or a partner. Not distracted.
00:09:35 And you will get the relevant answers and helpful information that you may need. In other words, you will be able to get answers without being sucked into this Google spiral. I know that we have grown up with the knowledge that Google has the answer to everything. But I can honestly say that
00:09:57 Google does not know why you are not getting pregnant Google does not know why you are not getting pregnant or staying pregnant. And even though the doctor may not have all the answers, they know your situation significantly better than Google. I hope that you can be inspired to reflect on your Google habits a bit, and that it can free up some time
00:10:18 for all the other lovely things you also need to be able to be right here in the situation with fertility treatment, which requires so many endless efforts. Thank you for today. Thank you for today. See you.
